When tough times come, they come in sets of 3, just to be sure you are f* up. But when rough times get you, you can cry for ages and slip into a depression state for long or try to mentally-survive and get stronger -that's when your friends play an important role too. And that's a moment when you can realize who a true friend is and who is there just for the good things.
So, what's friendship
for you? Being there when your friend has good news
& celebrating? Being there when your friend is bored? When s/he is stressed
? Or when s/he is sad/worried
etc.? Or everything?
While reading some blogs and articles from online magazines, I paid special attention to the friendship/relationships articles. Then saw a new lakatwalk post and started reading further so I searched for "friends" in lakatwalk.com searching box- since it is a blog i have been following for long and I like to read, specially posts which carry personal thoughts on life, such as friendship (and of course fashion and travel posts! my fav). I picked two random posts containing the word "friends/friendship" and I really liked what old posts of this blog said! Wise LaKat giving advice similar to what most of us tell to our friends in need, I really liked some words on friendship:
And I also found a post
I liked not only for the reflection content but also the funny style in which it is explained and which I can relate to! Yes I have cried due to the pain suffered from fab shoes that I felt I needed to wear no matter what but never have I ever cried over a man I proudly say.
Here's the part I liked about Kat's post for her reflections on loving oneself first:
I never got to read the beginnings of this blog but I liked the two texts I saw in those posts.
Yes this is so right. I am proud to think I always put myself first when it came to education/career opportunities over any man I liked/was attached to -even if it was a lot. At the end you know it's going to be you and just you, a guy can "end" tomorrow, and then you might regret chances you didn't take because you were counting on some trip together, some future ideas of living together or remaining in one place. Just do what you want, and be happy with yourself. And friends. Just like a guy can end tomorrow and you might not talk to each other anymore, friends shouldn't. You have known them for long and have invested a lot of time & shared many good times so you have to keep on with whatever friendship (if good) you have, and be there through the good and the bad times because that's when they probably need you the most. Wise Charlotte York said we should stick to our friends, and have guys only for fun-since they prove to be jerks and then it's when we need our friends. Beware of the friends you have and do not spoil the friendship you built because of some daydreaming with a certain someone...if you don't water your plants they eventually go away -same happens with friends... (I am also very proud to say I always put my friends over guys because I always knew a guy could disappoint me any day any moment but that may be more related to my trust issues, well that... can be left for another post or just blame it on my zodiac sign).
Lately I've seen my best friend proved to be a real friend & has been there for any drama and real drama I had. 2016
hasn't been treating me like the queen I am (flips hair and blinks dramatically) and my mental state has proved to be quite strong though I had very hard moments and nights of insomnia
and overthinking due to serious situations. Going a bit (L)Aura Dione
& trying to erase hard times related to family/friggingwork/feelings/friends (all with F..same as THAT great prohibited word in schools f*k)... it was impossible to just not get a bit bonkers with everything up together. Endless conversations
on the phone, meeting whenever we didn't have to work and even coming home (she works quite far) whenever she had a day off & felt I had one of those (super bad) days. I didn't have to ask. And I wouldn't ask for much, just presence
and listening even if I repeat myself for a thousand times because I just need to let it all out. Award given (but just so you know, I'll still blame you for my granny wrinkles when we are 80 years old). I owe you one of these:
And it's only June. I hope all this occurred to prepare me for something real good. Otherwise hell is raising an evil B* instead of a weak one. But I see all this as a lesson to see who has been there for support and who is there just when sh* is on them. Family, friends... some are golden, others just tagged as Famil/Friend..with a F standing for quite Fake.